Embracing Imperfection: A Therapist’s Journey to Authenticity
As many of you know, as a therapy practice and as part of our charity arm, Just Us; We All Struggle Inc., we mentor and train many new clinicians. Several key themes emerge consistently in our clinical debriefs and coaching sessions that are worth sharing.
One thing is for sure, newer therapists often feel the pressure to have all the answers for their clients, to say the right things, and to always be composed and professional. While we always need to be professional and client-focused, I believe that we are all messy humans. We are also navigating our own journeys of growth and understanding, and there’s beauty in vulnerability and navigating this together.
Admitting to our clients that we might not have the perfect words creates a space for open, honest communication. Sometimes we get it wrong with a client; we misunderstand them or say something to offend them. Clarity is key in therapy and is something we work towards together. Asking for feedback ensures that communication is effective, and that both parties are on the same page. It’s a practice that fosters mutual respect and understanding.
I also believe that when we do get it wrong, that there is an opportunity to model a repair process. Apologizing for miscommunication shows humility and a commitment to improving the therapeutic relationship. It humanizes the therapist and reinforces the idea that it’s okay to make mistakes. Sometimes you need to start over and try again. It’s a reminder that we don’t have to get everything right on the first try. No one does, not even therapists.
Therapy is a collaborative process where both therapist and client explore thoughts, feelings and ideas together. It can be messy and hard. It can also be restorative and life-changing.
We need to remind each other—therapists and clients alike—that imperfection is not only acceptable but also essential in building authentic and meaningful therapeutic relationships.
As helpers, we don’t have to have all the answers or say everything perfectly. What matters most is the genuine connection and the collaborative effort shown to navigate the journey together.