Is Your Partner Intimidated By Your Sex Toys?

Like many sexual health issues, the use of sex toys isn’t often discussed openly.

It's hard for you to process your feelings or insecurities around these toys, or how your partner uses them, when you don’t necessarily have people to talk to about it.

This is why it is so important to have open and non-judgmental conversations about your desires and the role of sex toys in your sexual relationship.

Here are 4 things your partner might be struggling with...

1. Insecurity or comparison: nThey may doubt their own abilities to provide pleasure or worry that they won't measure up to a sex toy's capabilities. They might fear being compared unfavourably or feel inadequate.

2. Fear of being replaced: They may mistakenly view sex toys as a replacement for their role in sexual intimacy and worry that incorporating toys implies they are not enough or that their partner prefers the toys over them. This is not true.

3. Cultural or societal beliefs: Societal attitudes and cultural norms around sex and pleasure can influence their perceptions of sex toys, for example, if your partner grew up in an environment where these topics were taboo or stigmatized, they may have internalized negative beliefs. Like many things we don’t understand, it is easy to judge them.

4. Personal preferences: It's possible that they simply have different sexual preferences and may not be interested in incorporating sex toys into their intimate activities. It's essential to respect each other's boundaries and have open discussions about your sexual desires.

Communicating openly and honestly with your partner about your own desires and expectations regarding sex or toys is the best approach. Encourage your partner to share their concerns, try to listen without getting defensive and keep in mind that their fears are often a result of their past experiences.

When couples create an environment of understanding and empathy, we see intimacy transform. It can lead to working together to explore what feels comfortable and pleasurable.

~ Laura, Clinical Therapist

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